So since my last day of normalcy (Friday, March 13th, 2020) this is what our pandemic life has been like:
- Trip to Great Wolf Lodge cancelled.
- Started new job, 100% remote due to the pandemic and office being closed – still working 100% remote to this day. Have been told to expect working from home at least until April 1, 2021. Personally I am glad not to be commuting 40 minutes each way to the new office and that I won’t have to worry about driving in snow/ice this winter. But I do feel I am lacking a sense of “community” with my new colleagues. They have all been kind and helpful and patient during my remote on-boarding and training but I do not have “friends” like I did at my last job.
- Furloughed for a month from new job.
- RBG turned ONE at the end of June (my baby is not really a “baby” anymore, sob); had a small, socially distanced outdoor birthday party for her with a “Pink Lemonade” theme. This is entirely possible for us because we have 2 acres of land and a large pool and patio; if not for that we would not have had this party. I realize how lucky I am to have so much land and to be able to enjoy the outdoors in the privacy of our own yard during this time. RBG is a ray of sunshine. She loves to smile, and dance, and play with her brother’s toys and drink out of her brother’s cups (even though she has her own). She loves peanut butter puffs and macaroni and cheese and chicken nuggets and yogurt.
- Went to NH for a long weekend at the beach; avoided all restaurants and stores (save for my favorite fried dough takeout); went from cottage to beach and back.
- McLovin and RBG went back to their daycare/preschool two days a week starting in July. This was a hard decision as I didn’t want to “lose control” over our safe bubble, but at the same time it was damn near impossible for me to get work done while watching a 3 and 1 year old during the day. The Husband works outside of the house and it was on me alone to watch them during the day unless my mother or mother in law came over to help, and they are not available each weekday. If we didn’t have them come over those days then I would have to work at night until however late to do my job. That has actually happened on days when we didn’t have help – I was up until 11pm at the computer answering emails, reviewing spreadsheets and putting together financial analysis. After being home with two kids under 4 all day. Not fun for me! McLovin was constantly talking about missing his teacher and his friends and asking when he would go back to school. The school sent out their safety procedures and protocols and based on the trends in our state at the time and their plan we felt it was safe for us, and that it would be helpful for McLovin and RBG to get that stimulation with their teachers and friends outside of the house, which McLovin was clearly missing.
- Went to Martha’s Vineyard for a week. Enjoyed social distancing at the beach and going for walks every day. Visited all lighthouses except one, because McLovin was fascinated by the lighthouses. The Husband and I went to dinner one night to a nice restaurant where we were social distanced and a second time to the golf club where we ate outdoors. It was so strange being out to eat and being served instead of just getting takeout. Avoided the busy “tourist” areas and enjoyed the change of scenery. The carousel was closed this season, naturally. But McLovin got to fly his first kite at Ocean Park and RBG had her first bite of ice cream and I got my favorite sandwich from The Chilmark Store and The Husband got his favorite burger from Farm Neck and all felt right with the world for a week.
- Halloween. McLovin was a lion and RBG was a pumpkin. We visited only our parents, which my mother and mother in law each come over one day during the week to watch the kids while I work upstairs in the office – so we feel safe visiting them. They are over our house with the kids anyway.
- The Husband and I finally met with an estate attorney to draft our wills and estate plans. We’d only been talking about it since McLovin was born. All done remotely except a 10 minute meeting in the office to sign. Between our initial call and some follow up meetings we signed off on everything last week. It is a relief to have this all done and know our wishes have been discussed and are in writing. And that we are minimizing tax and probate costs as best we can based on our attorney’s guidance.
- THE ELECTION! I am one happy never-Trumper. I wish he would just go away forever now. Please get here soon January 20, the universe only knows how much more damage he can cause in the next two months. Leading up to the election I had to block/restrict a lot of family and friends and even went off social media a few weeks because I could not stand the lies, negativity, and delusions. I avoided speaking or even texting with some family because the fact they continue to support Trump after the past four years just disappoints me beyond belief and makes me question their judgment. I am just glad, glad, glad that the majority of people in this country agree he is a lousy excuse for a leader and/or human but in my opinion it shouldn’t have been this close anyway. Sigh. But damn did it feel good to pop that bottle of champagne that Saturday that it was called for Biden. It had been chilling in my refrigerator since inauguration 2017.
- McLovin turned FOUR earlier this week! Four whole years. I could cry just thinking about it. I just love seeing what a bright, energetic, mischievous, kind, funny kid he is becoming. He loves trucks, The Lion King, Finding Nemo, Peppa Pig, Paw Patrol, chinese food, pizza, Bel Vita biscuits, playing police man, being cozy in his big blanket, and “If You’re Happy and You Know It.” He is a sweet, loving big brother but sometimes still has moments where he asks “Can we get rid of RBG now and send her back to the hospital?”
Life is plodding along. I’ve watched The Queen’s Gambit and The Crown Season 4 recently. I haven’t done as much reading as I thought I would have this year but I’m hoping to change that. The holidays are coming and I am going to do what I can to make it festive for us, since we won’t be visiting a lot of friends or family. I think I may overhaul our entire holiday decor scheme this year.
Otherwise we are continuing with our social distancing and doing what we can to stay safe. Getting takeout, doing grocery pick ups instead of going in store and sticking around our house. Avoiding gatherings and parties (even though some in my family are still hosting holidays and having housewarming parties which boggles my mind – how can they be that untethered to reality?) I am not too bothered by the restrictions, I am a person who enjoys my solitude anyway.