In my current situation I am particularly sensitive to, and keenly aware of less than considerate, obnoxious or rude behavior from pregnant woman.
1 – My friend (acquaintance?) C, she of the group text hostage announcement, has NOT yet thanked me for the shower gift I sent her. Her shower was two months ago. I did not attend, but I still bought a card and sent her a Babies ‘R Us gift certificate. Sometimes I feel up to browsing other people’s registries and picking a gift to send to them. Sometimes I don’t, and you’re going to get a gift certificate because it’s easy and thoughtless and I don’t want to think about how you are having a baby and I am not. Either way you should be thankful that I sent you anything at all. Instead I am hearing CRICKETS from her. Chirp… chirp… chirp….
Not sending a “Thank you” is one of my biggest pet peeves. The Husband’s friend and his wife had their first baby in 2009. I went to the shower and we gave them a nice gift, as The Husband is the girl’s godfather. NEVER GOT A THANK YOU. I should get the child a Miss Manners etiquette book because her parents clearly aren’t going to teach her basic courtesy. Yes, it’s been 6 years and yes, I still remember. Petty? Maybe… but you could have just thanked me for the expensive gift I bought you.
2 – My pregnant friend (acquaintance?) J, she of the holiday card ultrasound announcement, is having her baby shower next month. I politely declined to her sister, who is hosting, and bought her something off her registry and had it shipped to her house. Nothing about the shower was a surprise so I wasn’t ruining anything by having it sent early, and on the gift message I apologized for not being
mentally able to go. Fine. So this week I get a Facebook invitation to the shower from J herself! She set up the event and is saying things like “Thank you everyone who has already shopped on the registry! A lot of good things coming for my baby boy!” and “Don’t forget to have things shipped to my house instead of your house! It’ll be easier on shower day!” I already declined the invite once – sending it through Facebook is not going to change my RSVP status. It just caused me to decline a second time.
Is it just me or is this odd? I get wanting to be involved in planning your shower, but why are you personally setting up a Facebook event and sending Facebook invitations to the people that were already invited by mail? And why are you letting your guests know you are checking what they buy on the registry? Sure, you don’t know who bought what and lots of people probably check their registries, but do you need to comment on it? Keep your comments to yourself!